transition

CW: small amounts of transphobia, and references to chasers and surgeryWomen's bodies are deeply and constantly sexualised. We're shown through media and general treatment that how we look is more important than what

When I was young, I had two imaginary friends... sort of. I didn't believe they were real, of course. I had become fixated with the idea of the devil and angel on your

On twitter, I posted that for every like a post received, I'd mention some trivia related to my transition. I got far more likes than I was able to easily come with trivia,

The other day a friend sent me a casual message, inviting me to go with them to an event. I read the message, saw what the event was and my heart began to

For two years (and change) there has always been Something Else To Do. At the beginning, it was utterly terrifying things, such as talking to doctors, coming out publicly, taking meds to completely

If you ask a medical professional about feminising hormone therapy, the most helpful response you get seems to be a furrowed brow followed by, "Look, we generally consider it to be a

One of the most common questions I get asked by people I come out to is some variation on "what's it like being trans?". Of course, that's a really tough question

There's a joke going around at the moment on twitter, similar to other observational jokes I've seen for a while, but done particularly well: Male Writers Writing Female Characters: “Cassandra woke up to

I've been thinking about the complicated nature of relationships. And for a moment forget the "relationship = partner / girlfriend / boyfriend" thing. I mean relationships as in the way to define how we

Every trans person had their own ways of coping before they transition. Some have "always" shown behaviour somewhat reflective of their true gender identity. I, on the other hand, got so

My own social anxiety never made much sense to me. It was so specific and so seemingly-random (pro-tip: it wasn't random; it was when I was treated in a gendered way or segregated

A year ago, I wrote this facebook post (slightly modified for re-posting here)... 16 September, 2016 A year ago today, I broke down crying. It was in the morning. I had gotten up

One of the interesting discussions I've had over drinks with lots of other trans people is the one that begins this way: "I have no idea how I didn't figure it out

CW: Public attention from creepy dudes. Most of my transition blog posts have been either general observations about an aspect of transitioning, or specific discussions of experiences I've had. This is... half way

I used to passionately detest the way I looked. I grew a beard and kept it from about age 21 until right before I began transitioning, and GOD I hated it. On myself,

Pre-transition, gender only factored into my dreams and internal monologue when I had no choice. I was so deeply uncomfortable being gendered male that in most of my dreams I had no noticeable

Voices are really interesting things. For me, my voice was actually the one part of myself related to my body that I wasn't ashamed of. I liked the range of my voice. That

Emotions are a major part of our lives. They inform how we react to situations from big (grief, loss or joy) to small (stubbing our toes or finding a buck on the sidewalk)

I was recently thinking back to my high school days. I went to an all-male high school, which is a pretty shite idea at the best of times, but for a clueless trans

I can't open up my news feed right now without seeing article after article about trans rights in the united states. I can't escape it. At precisely the same moment it feels like

Before I began hormone therapy, my dysphoria could get very bad, and it was incredibly frequent (I've written about it several times in detail, but a good summary of my dysphoria experiences is

Regenerating your whole goddamn body with hormones and lasers (fuck it sounds cool when I put it that way) is a strange experience. But I'd imagine for others, especially those who aren't used

It's easy sometimes to focus on the stress and problems of being trans. There are bad days or bad moments that stick in your memory. Moments of loneliness or feelings of isolation. But